I know that being a good dad and stepdad are pretty high on your list of priorities in life. I also know that you worry a lot about whether you’re doing a good enough job. And that you beat yourself up when you feel that you’re somehow “failing” in these roles.
I wanted to remind you that you need look no further than the faces of your children and step children to see the truth. I see the truth in their smiling, shining faces when you’re around. I hear the truth in their laughter. I recognize it when I hear them say or do something that’s obviously a result of your influence in their lives.
You are a good father. The simple fact that you struggle with doubts and feelings tell me that. Because it’s so often the good parents that worry that they’re doing a good enough job. The fact that you’re even here tells an important story. You know that I had doubts in the beginning about you parenting my girls, simply due to our sometimes different approach. Those doubts are long gone; believe me when I say that if the doubts were still here, you would not be. 😉
I am so grateful to have you here as my co-parenting partner. Yes, you and I struggle sometimes to parent effectively together when all the kids are present. We’re not perfect. The important thing is that we love each other enough to keep trying to work this out. I know that with everything we’ve ever encountered together, we will not only get through it, but grow stronger and better because of it.
Thank you for being the best dad and stepdad that you know how to be.
Thank you for always striving to be better.
Thank you for being open to compromise and change.
Thank you for the love you show my girls. Thank you for being another strong male role model in their lives.
Thank you for your patience with me as I (sometimes) stumble through this whole “being a stepmom” thing.
Thank you for all the love and support that you show me in this parenting adventure. I wouldn’t want anyone else by my side.
I love you.