It was almost exactly a year ago when I was talking to an old childhood friend and she told me that she was getting married. My first instinct was to tell her, “DON’T DO IT!!” Listening to her talking about her wedding plans made me feel just a little bit sick to my stomach.
Um, yeah. Despite being blissfully happy in my relationship, I was still in that “bitter” phase from my marriage.
And here we are…one short year later. While I’m still not convinced that most people should, in fact, get married, I’m actually at a point where I would consider it for myself again.
I know. Crazy, huh?
It’s come up in conversation with CBG many times in the last year. We’re at a point where we are on the same page. We see marriage as part of our future together.CBG was mulling over similar issues on his blog recently, too.
(Of course, it might not necessarily be a traditional marriage, since relocating isn’t something that either one of us can do anytime in the near future unless some unimaginable circumstances change for one of us. But that’s a blog post all it’s own.)
It’s interesting how being crazy in love with someone can make you change your mind about something like marriage. I’m definitely not bitter anymore. I guess that just means that I’m focusing on life as it is now, rather than how it once was. Bitterness about the past is a waste of positive energy. Mistakes were made, lessons were learned. I need to remember to put those lessons to good use.