CBG and I had lots of good conversations over the weekend.
One of the things we talked about was how difficult being in a long distance relationship is. An entirely different mindset is required than in a more traditional type of relationship. There’s a certain amount of mental, emotional and spiritual “toughness” involved in LDRs. Patience for and acceptance of the situation need to be there. Trust needs to be huge factor.
CBG and I have a lot of good things going for us. Trust is not an issue at all. In fact, it’s something that I personally never worry about. I don’t worry that he’s secretly seeing someone on the side…and he feels the same way. So in that regard, we are ahead of the game in terms of our relationship.
Other aspects are more difficult. Acceptance of our situation is a tough one. As things stand, neither one of us is going to be moving any time soon. Being faced with an uncertain future is difficult to come to terms with.
The ability to be tough in the face of the challenges we face comes and goes. Some days…some weeks are easier than others. Others are brutally, brutally difficult. That’s just how it goes in this type of relationship. It’s the cold, hard reality.
At one point during one of our conversations on the weekend I said to him, “I know how hard this is for you. And if it’s too hard for you to keep doing…I love you enough that I will let you go.”
That was one of the most difficult things I’ve said in the context of a relationship. That’s the thing about love. When you love someone enough…all you want is for them to be happy. And honestly? If being with me, if all the sacrifices and work involved is too hard and not worth the benefits…then as difficult as it would be, I would much rather see him find love and happiness elsewhere.
Sometimes this love stuff really stinks. It’s a damn good thing he’s worth it.