Wisdom from Marilyn

I’m not sure if I’ve ever seen a Marilyn Monroe film. It just wasn’t something that’s interested me to seek out, up until now. And you know what? Now that I think about, I just may watch one sometime soon.

I’ve always admired her though – she is such a tragic figure – this beautiful woman who seemed to have it all, but at the heart of it, didn’t know how to love herself. I think that so many women can relate to her, at least at some points in their lives. I know I certainly can.

Yesterday while walking home from work, my favourite Marilyn quote came to mind:

“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”

I think about that a lot…Ms. Monroe and I share a lot in common. I, too, want a man who can “handle me at my worst”. CBG has definitely been there for that. And through it all, he’s never tried to “fix” me. He’s never tried to carry me when I should be carrying myself. He is always just there, loving me through whatever we encounter together. And y’know…I’ve come to our relationship with a lot of emotional baggage.

I’m grateful that he’s stuck around while I’ve emptied out a couple of those old suitcases. I still have a few left to go. I love that he never feels like it’s his job to help me carry them. That’s my job…and I gladly accept that…because it SHOULD be my job.

While I was looking for the above quote online, I came across a few other gems that I thought would be fun to share…all quotes by Marilyn Monroe.

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

The next two, in particular, really speak to where I am right now:

“When it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. If they care enough to bother with what I do, then I’m already better than them.”

“I’ve never fooled anyone. I’ve let people fool themselves. They didn’t bother to find out who and what I was. Instead they would invent a character for me. I wouldn’t argue with them. They were obviously loving somebody I wasn’t.”

And so…I continue on. I continue to grow and learn about myself, even knowing that there are people out there who either don’t believe it, or perhaps even want to prevent it. But I can’t worry about them, now can I?

I have more important things to concern myself with. Self-love, one of the things that eluded Marilyn, is absolutely at the top of my list.

4 Responses

  1. Oh I heart Marilyn BAD. I remember the first time I saw her in a film. I’d always seen pictures of her. Such a stunning beauty. But to see her move, to react to others, to smile… wow. She is hypnotic. You should see her in Bus Stop or The Seven Year Itch or How to Marry a Millionaire. (I have a MM box set of movies.)

    She was very wise and misunderstood. I think she represents most of us, actually. Just maybe many of us aren’t OUT THERE like she was. All of us are lonely and want more… She did have someone who stood by her til the end and he continued to stand by her long after her death and until he died. Mr Joe DiMaggio. That man loved her as long as he knew her. Treated her with respect and love…

    Anyway, the point being that we are all loved but may or may not be willing to ALLOW ourselves that love. She, unfortunately, never found a place for that. She was lost way too early.

    Much love to you Sunshine. Finding gratitude in the love in your life will help you through this and all of other life’s challenges.

    ((hugs))

  2. I’ve always loved all those quotes too. Marilyn definitely “got it” even if others didn’t get her. Maybe that’s why she suffered as she did.

  3. I have read the first quote before, but not the others. Thanks for sharing these! Great post.

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