Last night I had a long talk with an old friend. She and I talked about a lot of things that have been going on in our lives lately. We’ve had some rocky times in our friendship over the years, but it feels like, once again, we are reaching a point of openness, honesty and goodness…for the first time in a long time.
It feels good.
This morning I’ve been thinking a lot about the themes of forgiveness and compassion in my life. I see where there may be opportunities in my future that will allow me to show both of these – to people that, at one point in my life, weren’t able to offer me the same. Perhaps even people who might not be ready even yet to offer me that.
I have realized that I won’t allow that to stop me. Circumstances change. People change. In many ways I’m not the person that I was even a year ago. I have learned a lot about the power of love, compassion and forgiveness.
I am ready to offer it. Because life is far too short for bad feelings and held grudges. That’s not the person that I am. This isn’t about me being self-righteous or saying, “Look how wonderful and forgiving I am”. This is about me saying, “I am responsible only for my own actions and reactions in life…and these are the actions I choose. This is who I am.”
What others choose to do with this, with the compassion, understanding and forgiveness that I offer to them is their own choice. I can accept that and wish them well no matter what direction they choose…if for nothing else, than for the example that it provides to my girls. People make mistakes. Bad things sometimes happen. But forgiveness is always an option.
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