My name is Lyubena and I am from Bulgaria. Today in the office we didn’t have that much work and somehow I stumbled upon your blog page.
What amazed me the most was your view on the long-distance relationship.
I have the same “issue” in my life and may be a bit more weirder, because for 7 months I am with Robert, who is living in US and I had never met him before, but we are together and I am happier than in any other previous relationship with a local guy.
I liked your post on ” I love you enough to let you go.” It reminds me once again that in such relationships we all have to be patient enough and if the feelings and the relations are truth… than everything is going to be amazing.
Thank you for inspiring my day!
Finally coming here to visit your site. I am particularly interested in your views on and experience with long-distance relationships. We’ve got some mutual friends and I know they respect your viewpoints and advice.
You misread the intent of the article. Of course people don`t want to ruin their sex lives! But I think that many of us get caught in the traps that I wrote about in the article. It is supposed to be a “what NOT to do”, just written in a slightly different style. ;-)
@ Trevor. huh? Haven’t even had time to read the article but have followed sunshine enough to know that private time with bald guy is not something she wishes would lessen. Due respect tho…new parenting does alter one’s ability to see anything with out a fog of exhaustion.
I think it’s to easy to get married. I for one feel we walk away from problems instead of working them out. If one or both people have addictions then yes getting help for them and yourself is necessary. If you grow “apart” then I feel you’re just too self centered and need to take a good look at yourself. Blaming boredom is only an excuse. Take your time before you make a life long commitment – being in love with love doesn’t last. After forty one years of marriage to my best friend has not always been easy but I can’t imagine life without him. Wishing you all good luck with your choices.
I also believe that it’s too easy to make judgments about other people’s choices. When you’re on the outside looking in, it’s easy to say that someone is being self-centred or that they need to take a good look at themselves when their marriage ends. I would never dream of judging of someone who made the choice to get divorced. It is always a difficult decision — who am I to decide that their reasons are selfish or “wrong”? I wasn’t there. I don’t know what went on behind closed doors. Their personal decisions have nothing to do with me and my own choices. We all have our own paths to take….all we can ever do is the best we can with what we have at the time. Life is never easy.
Congrats to you on your 41 years of marriage! That’s truly an amazing accomplishment. I hope that you’re as happy with all of your life choices as I am with mine. Take care!