Chances are, you’re believing at least one lie about yourself right now.
We all have things that we choose to believe about ourselves. Somewhere along the way, likely in childhood, someone (maybe our parents?) decided certain things about us, based on their observations. “He’s a procrastinator”, “she’s lazy”, “she’s bad at math”, “he’s not much of an athlete”. Eventually, when we hear things like this about ourselves enough, we start to believe them.
The thing is, these things are only true because we make the choice to believe them.
For example, I used to believe that I was lazy. I was a bit of a “bookworm” as a kid. Also, because of the huge age gap between myself and my siblings, I was raised basically as an only child, so I grew up without siblings to play with. So I spent most of days inside, curled up with a book, reading away. These things caused someone along the way to label me as “lazy”. And for a long time, I chose to believe that description. It was a handy excuse. “I can’t do that because I’m lazy.” “I would do that, if I weren’t so lazy.” You get the idea.
I see people around me doing it, too – choosing to believe those lies. There are some things about us that aren’t a choice. I will always be short. I will always have blue eyes. But so many other things are choices. Like laziness and procrastination and perfectionism and a million other traits.
Somewhere along the way, I started acting in non-lazy ways. Like raising two kids as a stay at home mom. And running. And then being a single working mom. Turns out, I’m not lazy at all. I wonder sometimes what my life would look like if I continued to believe those lies. I’d still be trapped in that narrow little box, living someone else’s idea of who I was.I’d still be choosing to act in lazy ways. I would still have a handy excuse preventing me from getting other there, taking chances, and living my life. There would be so many things that I would be missing out on right now.
So many things about us in life are the way they are because of choices that we make. The beauty about choices is that we are always free to choose something else. I made a choice not to believe that I was lazy. I choose to get out there and be a runner. I choose to get up every morning and accomplish a multitude of tasks through the course of the day. I choose to be the person that I want to be, not the person that someone else has decided that I am.
Hell, I’m not perfect. I still some days fall into the trap of believing things about myself that aren’t true simply because it’s easier that way. Because if we believe those negative things, then we have the perfect excuse not to challenge ourselves, don’t we? And facing those challenges can be a scary thing sometimes. But it’s those challenges that help us to grow and change and ultimately be better people…which is the whole point of this, isn’t it?
What about you? What lies are you believing about yourself right now? What can you do to challenge those lies and be the person that you want to be?
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